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INFP and Enneagram Type 4 Compatibility: Relationships, Friendships, and Partnerships

How compatible are the INFP and Enneagram Type 4 patterns of communicating, feeling, and thinking?

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In this article, you’ll find comparisons of two personality types — INFPs and the Enneagram Type 4s — across four important personality domains: Interpersonal/Communication Style, Emotional Style, Intellectual Style, and Organizational Style.

TraitLab collected data about personality traits from thousands of participants who identified as a particular type from the 16 Personality or Enneagram typology.

For each comparison area below, you’ll see show the average similarities and differences between INFPs and Type 4s. While these comparisons are useful for understanding broad trends across these types, it’s important to remember that all personality types are oversimplifications. For an assessment of your unique personality, you’ll want to use an assessment that goes beyond single personality types.

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INFP and Type 4 Interpersonal and Communication Styles

Your particular style of communicating and interacting with others can be described fairly well by two dimensions: assertiveness and warmth.

Assertiveness describes your tendency to assert yourself, lead, and influence others in social situations, while warmth describes your tendencies to empathize and put others’ needs ahead of your own.

People with the same personality type often share some similarities in assertiveness and warmth. In the graph below, you can see where most INFPs and most Type 4s fall along both of these dimensions.

First, take a look at where people in each type, on average, fall in this interpersonal space.

Enneagram INFP and Type 4 comparison across interpersonal dimensions
A comparison of Enneagram INFPs and Type 4s along interpersonal dimensions. The blue dot shows the average position of INFPs, and the blue circle shows where roughly 50% of INFPs fall in interpersonal space. The orange dot and circle show similar positions for Type 4s.

Most INFPs and Type 4s overlap heavily in their interpersonal and communication style.

INFPs and Type 4s often respect others, conform to expectations, and ask for guidance. At their best, they are loyal and reliable, and encourage others to guide and help. INFPs and Type 4s may be overly clingy, gullible, and have difficulty expressing anger, even when appropriate. At their worst, they will try to please others too much, put others’ needs ahead of their own, and allow others to take advantage of them.

One aspect that you and many Type 4s have in common in their interpersonal warmth. Both INFPs and Type 4s tend to be on the friendlier side and are attentive to the needs and interests of other people, sometimes at the expense of your own goals.

Likewise, you and most Type 4s both tend to be on the more reserved and passive side in social situations. On one hand, this is a benefit: both of you tend to be reliable partners, ready and willing to help each other when needed. On the other hand, your mutual passivity can stall decisions and action, especially if both of you are waiting for the other to take the lead.

INFP and Type 4 Emotional Styles

Another characteristic of your personality is your emotional style — your tendencies towards different kinds of moods. There are two dimensions that influence emotional style: arousal and valence.

Arousal describes your relative energy level across different situations. Those with high baseline levels of arousal tend to be generally more alert, active, and engaged, while those with a lower baseline are more reserved, subdued, and inhibited.

Valence describes whether these moods tend to be positive (pleasant) or negative (unpleasant). People with a more positively valenced style are more likely to experience emotions like joy, enthusiasm, satisfaction, and serenity. People with a more negatively valenced style are more likely to experience sadness, frustration, dissatisfaction, and anxiety.

The graph below shows where each type, on average, usually sits in this emotional space.

INFP and Type 4 comparison across emotional (affective) dimensions
A comparison of INFPs and Type 4s along emotional (or affective) dimensions. The blue dot shows the average position of INFPs, and the blue circle shows where roughly 50% of INFPs fall in interpersonal space. The orange dot and circle show similar positions for Type 4s.

Most INFPs and Type 4s overlap heavily in their emotional style.

INFPs and Type 4s have a tendency to be quiet and inhibited. Compared to most people, they can easily drift into gloom and melancholy. They see the glass as half-empty and have a more skeptical outlook and a hesitant approach to life. For better or worse, INFPs and Type 4s tend to notice the negatives in most situations. In stressful times, they are more likely to withdraw quietly and retreat inward, rather than share their frustration with others.

Like many INFPs, you and most Type 4s tend to be on the more reserved and quiet side. You both prefer to sit back and observe, and the two of you are usually perfectly happy with lower levels of excitement and stimulation. You understand each other’s need for personal space and solitude, and you are both content to leave each other to do their own thing.

Likewise, INFPs and Type 4s often default to the negative side of the emotional spectrum. While you may not always express them, you are both more likely to experience negative emotions like sadness, worry, frustration, and impatience. It’s rare to find INFPs or Type 4s in a bubbly, cheerful mood. Like most people, they have moments of joy and satisfaction, but these dissipate quickly. They often point out the negatives in most situations and have a more pessimistic outlook.

INFP and Type 4 Intellectual Styles

Your intellectual style describes how you receive, process, and pursue different kinds of information. Differences in intellectual style are captured well by two dimensions: ideas and aesthetics.

Ideas describes your appetite for new information and your interest in complex, challenging material. People high on the ideas dimension have an appreciation for complexity and technical details. People lower on ideas are less interested in learning for learning’s sake, and they prefer to simplify complex topics down to the essential details.

Aesthetics captures your relative interest and sensitivity to aesthetic information and its emotional impact. People higher on the aesthetics dimension usually have strong artistic interests and a deep appreciation for beauty in many forms. Those lower on aesthetics tend to value practical application over artistic merit and usually adhere to more conventional standards of beauty.

In the graph below, you’ll see where INFPs and Type 4s, on average, fall in this intellectual space.

INFP and Type 4 comparison across intellectual dimensions
A comparison of INFPs and Type 4s along intellectual dimensions. The blue dot shows the average position of INFPs, and the blue circle shows where roughly 50% of INFPs fall in intellectual space. The orange dot and circle show similar positions for Type 4s.

Most INFPs and Type 4s overlap heavily in their intellectual style.

INFPs and Type 4s are idealistic, creative dreamers. They tend to be interested in the nuances of emotional and artistic experiences, looking for patterns and meaningful insights. INFPs and Type 4s are comfortable with ambiguity and abstract concepts, focusing on the big picture rather than technical details. They often practice some form of creative expression and are likely to hold a few unconventional, eccentric beliefs.

As a INFP, you and most Type 4s are down-to-earth, straightforward thinkers. You’d both prefer to stick to the essentials and focus on practical issues, and you try to avoid overcomplicating matters. When you and your Type 4 counterpart are together, your conversations are more likely to revolve around concrete details, facts, and conventional topics rather than theoretical or philosophical ones.

Likewise, both INFPs and Type 4s share a deep appreciation for beauty in the natural and artistic world. Both of you can easily become absorbed in aesthetic experiences and overcome with a sense of awe and wonder. The two of you can find common ground in your love of creative expression and unconventional approaches to life’s challenges.

INFP and Type 4 Organizational Styles

Your organizational style describes your habits around organization and planning. Your organizational style influences how you structure your time and physical space. Differences in organizational style fall along two dimensions: industriousness and orderliness.

Industriousness describes your persistence, need for achievement, and intensity of focus. People higher on industriousness usually organize their behavior around a few important long-term goals. People lower on industriousness are usually more focused on the present and will more easily change their focus when new opportunities appear.

Orderliness describes your need for regularity, order, and structure in your environment. People higher on orderliness prefer tidy, organized physical spaces, detailed schedules, and reliable routines. People lower on orderliness can tolerate more disorganization and prefer a more spontaneous, unstructured approach.

The graph below shows the average position of INFPs and Type 4s along these dimensions of organizational style.

INFP and Type 4 comparison across organizational dimensions
A comparison of INFPs and Type 4s along organizational dimensions. The blue dot shows the average position of INFPs, and the blue circle shows where roughly 50% of INFPs fall in organizational space. The orange dot and circle show similar positions for Type 4s.

Most INFPs and Type 4s share a similar organizational style.

INFPs and Type 4s thrive in unstructured environments with fewer constraints and more room for improvisation and serendipity. They generally focus on enjoying the present rather than preparing for the future. INFPs and Type 4s highly value spontaneity and the flexibility to change their mind, and they resist setting hard deadlines or rigid expectations.

Like most INFPs, you and many Type 4s often set ambitious goals but struggle to stick to those plans in the long run. As new opportunities arise, you easily change direction, losing interest or motivation to pursue your past goals. As a result, the two of you often postpone important or difficult decisions, which sometimes creates tension between you due to lost opportunities or last-minute rushing. Both of you tend to perform better under external pressure rather than being left to your devices. You can benefit greatly by holding each other accountable and providing gentle motivation when needed.

Similarly, INFPs and Type 4s share a more intuitive, unstructured approach to most areas of their lives. Both of you take life as it comes, and you avoid overly detailed plans and high levels of organization. Compared to most people, the two of you also have higher tolerances for messiness and disorganization.

How to Identify Your Personality Types

Most people have complex personalities, and they don’t fit perfectly into a single personality type.

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INFP Compatibility with Other Enneagram Types

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Enneagram Type 4 Compatibility with Other 16 Personality Types

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