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INFP and INFJ Compatibility: Relationships, Friendships, and Partnerships

How compatible are INFP and INFJ patterns of communicating, thinking, and working?

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In this article, you’ll find a comparison of INFPs and INFJs across five important personality domains: Interpersonal/Communication Style, Emotional Style, Intellectual Style, and Organizational Style.

One important note: the following comparisons cannot be made simply by comparing the cognitive functions (letters) of each personality type.

For this analysis, TraitLab gathered data about personality traits from thousands of participants who identified themselves as a particular type in the 16 Personality or Myers-Briggs framework.

The comparisons here show the average similarities and differences between INFPs and INFJs. However, remember that all personality types are oversimplifications. For an assessment of your unique position in these areas, you’ll need a personalized assessment that doesn’t rely on personality types.

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INFP and INFJ Interpersonal and Communication Styles

Your particular style of communicating and interacting with others can be described fairly well by two dimensions: assertiveness and warmth.

Assertiveness describes your tendency to assert yourself, lead, and influence others in social situations, while warmth describes your tendencies to empathize and put others’ needs ahead of your own.

People with the same personality type often share some similarities in assertiveness and warmth. In the graph below, you can see where most INFPs and most INFJs fall along both of these dimensions.

First, take a look at where people in each type, on average, fall in this interpersonal space.

INFP and INFJ comparison across interpersonal dimensions
A comparison of INFPs and INFJs along interpersonal dimensions. The blue dot shows the average position of INFPs, and the blue circle shows where roughly 50% of INFPs fall in interpersonal space. The orange dot and circle show similar positions for INFJs.

INFPs often respect others, conform to expectations, and ask for guidance. At their best, they are loyal and reliable, and encourage others to guide and help. INFPs may be overly clingy, gullible, and have difficulty expressing anger, even when appropriate. At their worst, they will try to please others too much, put others’ needs ahead of their own, and allow others to take advantage of them.

INFJs often agree, trust, and cooperate with others. At their best, they are friendly, affectionate, and bring out the warmth and sympathy in others. INFJs may be too agreeable and quick to compromise. At their worst, they may seek approval and agreement too much, and be dependent on the approval of other people.

One aspect that you and many INFJs have in common in their interpersonal warmth. Both INFPs and INFJs tend to be on the friendlier side and are attentive to the needs and interests of other people, sometimes at the expense of your own goals.

Likewise, you and most INFJs both tend to be on the more reserved and passive side in social situations. On one hand, this is a benefit: both of you tend to be reliable partners, ready and willing to help each other when needed. On the other hand, your mutual passivity can stall decisions and action, especially if both of you are waiting for the other to take the lead.

INFP and INFJ Emotional Styles

Another characteristic of your personality is your emotional style — your tendencies towards different kinds of moods. There are two dimensions that influence emotional style: arousal and valence.

Arousal describes your relative energy level across different situations. Those with high baseline levels of arousal tend to be generally more alert, active, and engaged, while those with a lower baseline are more reserved, subdued, and inhibited.

Valence describes whether these moods tend to be positive (pleasant) or negative (unpleasant). People with a more positively valenced style are more likely to experience emotions like joy, enthusiasm, satisfaction, and serenity. People with a more negatively valenced style are more likely to experience sadness, frustration, dissatisfaction, and anxiety.

The graph below shows where each type, on average, usually sits in this emotional space.

INFP and INFJ comparison across emotional (affective) dimensions
A comparison of INFPs and INFJs along emotional (or affective) dimensions. The blue dot shows the average position of INFPs, and the blue circle shows where roughly 50% of INFPs fall in interpersonal space. The orange dot and circle show similar positions for INFJs.

Most INFPs and INFJs overlap heavily in their emotional style.

INFPs and INFJs have a tendency to be quiet and inhibited. Compared to most people, they can easily drift into gloom and melancholy. They see the glass as half-empty and have a more skeptical outlook and a hesitant approach to life. For better or worse, INFPs and INFJs tend to notice the negatives in most situations. In stressful times, they are more likely to withdraw quietly and retreat inward, rather than share their frustration with others.

Like many INFPs, you and most INFJs tend to be on the more reserved and quiet side. You both prefer to sit back and observe, and the two of you are usually perfectly happy with lower levels of excitement and stimulation. You understand each other’s need for personal space and solitude, and you are both content to leave each other to do their own thing.

Likewise, INFPs and INFJs often default to the negative side of the emotional spectrum. While you may not always express them, you are both more likely to experience negative emotions like sadness, worry, frustration, and impatience. It’s rare to find INFPs or INFJs in a bubbly, cheerful mood. Like most people, they have moments of joy and satisfaction, but these dissipate quickly. They often point out the negatives in most situations and have a more pessimistic outlook.

INFP and INFJ Intellectual Styles

Your intellectual style describes how you receive, process, and pursue different kinds of information. Differences in intellectual style are captured well by two dimensions: ideas and aesthetics.

Ideas describes your appetite for new information and your interest in complex, challenging material. People high on the ideas dimension have an appreciation for complexity and technical details. People lower on ideas are less interested in learning for learning’s sake, and they prefer to simplify complex topics down to the essential details.

Aesthetics captures your relative interest and sensitivity to aesthetic information and its emotional impact. People higher on the aesthetics dimension usually have strong artistic interests and a deep appreciation for beauty in many forms. Those lower on aesthetics tend to value practical application over artistic merit and usually adhere to more conventional standards of beauty.

In the graph below, you’ll see where INFPs and INFJs, on average, fall in this intellectual space.

INFP and INFJ comparison across intellectual dimensions
A comparison of INFPs and INFJs along intellectual dimensions. The blue dot shows the average position of INFPs, and the blue circle shows where roughly 50% of INFPs fall in intellectual space. The orange dot and circle show similar positions for INFJs.

INFPs are idealistic, creative dreamers. They tend to be interested in the nuances of emotional and artistic experiences, looking for patterns and meaningful insights. INFPs are comfortable with ambiguity and abstract concepts, focusing on the big picture rather than technical details. They often practice some form of creative expression and are likely to hold a few unconventional, eccentric beliefs.

INFJs tend to be deep thinkers — bright, curious, and philosophical. They are highly receptive to new ideas and drawn to complex, abstract concepts. INFJs enjoy taking in large amounts of information and typically have one or more creative outlets.

Like most INFPs, you are less interested in learning purely for learning’s sake, compared to most INFJs. You’d prefer to focus on the essentials and the practical issues at hand, while your INFJ counterpart typically wants to dig deeper and understand the bigger picture. In conversations, you may find that your INFJ partner often gets caught up in theoretical or abstract details, and you need to bring them back down to earth.

Likewise, both INFPs and INFJs share a deep appreciation for beauty in the natural and artistic world. Both of you can easily become absorbed in aesthetic experiences and overcome with a sense of awe and wonder. The two of you can find common ground in your love of creative expression and unconventional approaches to life’s challenges.

INFP and INFJ Organizational Styles

Your organizational style describes your habits around organization and planning. Your organizational style influences how you structure your time and physical space. Differences in organizational style fall along two dimensions: industriousness and orderliness.

Industriousness describes your persistence, need for achievement, and intensity of focus. People higher on industriousness usually organize their behavior around a few important long-term goals. People lower on industriousness are usually more focused on the present and will more easily change their focus when new opportunities appear.

Orderliness describes your need for regularity, order, and structure in your environment. People higher on orderliness prefer tidy, organized physical spaces, detailed schedules, and reliable routines. People lower on orderliness can tolerate more disorganization and prefer a more spontaneous, unstructured approach.

The graph below shows the average position of INFPs and INFJs along these dimensions of organizational style.

INFP and INFJ comparison across organizational dimensions
A comparison of INFPs and INFJs along organizational dimensions. The blue dot shows the average position of INFPs, and the blue circle shows where roughly 50% of INFPs fall in organizational space. The orange dot and circle show similar positions for INFJs.

INFPs thrive in unstructured environments with fewer constraints and more room for improvisation and serendipity. They generally focus on enjoying the present rather than preparing for the future. INFPs highly value spontaneity and the flexibility to change their mind, and they resist setting hard deadlines or rigid expectations.

INFJs are usually systematic and highly organized. They like setting big, long-term goals and then creating detailed plans to accomplish them. INFJs are generally good at ignoring distractions and making steady progress through consistent routines and habits.

Like many INFPs, you and most INFJ often differ in your need to achieve explicit goals and use your time productively. While you embrace the here and now, your INFJ counterpart is often thinking about and planning for the future. When you are keeping your eyes out for new, interesting opportunities, INFJs are usually working away with their heads down. This difference between your present-oriented mindset and their future-oriented one can create occasional tension. However, this difference also helps you balance the other out at times. Your INFJ counterpart often needs you to break them out of their need for productivity and efficiency while they can provide you with additional focus and motivation.

A second difference between INFPs and INFJs is in their relative need for routine, structure, and order. You and most INFPs are more comfortable with an unplanned, spontaneous approach to life, while your INFJ counterpart often wants plans, schedules, and well-defined procedures. INFJs thrive on routine and predictability, whereas INFPs find the same level of organization to be overbearing and constraining. These differences in tidiness, punctuality, and comfortability with deviating from social expectations can be a consistent source of conflict between the two of you.

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